Darkstar
i find it extremely irritating how people treat trans like some little grapefruiting cool points label that you can slap onto yourself to make you seem more interesting. it just happens to peeve me because my girlfriend is trans, and i've been with her since her second month on hormones. i've seen her reduced to a crying ball of pure emotional turmoil and pain because of her dysphoria. i've seen just a tiny reminder of her dilemma utterly destroy her on what seemed like a good day. its been nearly a year now and only now am i seeing her reach a point of confidence and happiness with her body, and i feel like it really just adulterates the depth of her struggle (and those of other trans people) when a bunch of asshats throw the label around like a favorite grapefruiting color. she hates these people. she hates these people because she feels like they give her an extremely bad reputation. she's expressed fear of people debating the genuinity of her being trans due to these people. so if you're not trans and you're appropriating the label, grapefruit you for bringing additional pain to my girlfriend. she didn't deserve to be hurt by your desire to be more fashionable.
and the bigger asshats of this breed who joke about triggering actual trans peoples' dysphoria? i just want you to experience the sensation of being in the entirely wrong body, awash with the wrong hormones for one week. maybe then you'll stop dicking around with such a painful subject for some people.
Admittedly this is how I feel when I see people say things like “I'm warriorkin, so use 'catself' pronouns!” If you genuinely believe you're a cat, fine, brilliant, act like a cat or whatever; but making up nonexistant pronouns like that for fun is disrespectful to people who struggle daily just to get people to use he/she/they, as it stops people taking them seriously.
Unfortunately, I could never voice this opinion on Tumblr as I'd probably get death threats from half the Warriors fandom
I don't mean to weedle my way into other people's confessions, but honestly, I agree with both these things — however, I did learn that there actually are some people out there whose 'nounself' pronouns are actually used in legitimate situations with being transgender. I've spoken to some people who have dysphoria but haven't found the right pronouns that they believe fit them, therefore they had to make them up themselves and that's the reason why you see some trans otherkin using nounself pronouns, as in cat/catself/etc.
However, there is unfortunately a large majority of otherkin who appropriate trans struggles (and cultural struggles, but that's a story for another day), and use the nounself pronouns simply because they think that gender is an accessory. This may come along with being 'truscum' but eh, sometimes you have to draw a line. It's hard to say you're trans without actually having dysphoria, which is where a lot of otherkin go horribly wrong. I know there's a big argument about gatekeeping and whether dysphoria is required for being trans, blah blah, but the point is that non-trans otherkin do try to get in on trans struggles by appropriation.
That being said, trans otherkin should have the right to use whichever pronouns they want. Non-trans otherkin need to STFU.